By Zig Ziglar
Unfortunately, many men are uncomfortable with their daughters as they begin to mature physically. They refrain from hugging and embracing them and their relationships become more distant. At the most critical time of a daughter’s life, when her need for fatherly affection is at its peak, her dad backs away from his little girl. She no longer feels like the apple of his eye. Now she’s set adrift. Unfortunately, at that precise moment, “Hormones Harry,” who is two or three years older, is set to make his move. That’s tragic.
Let me encourage you, Dad, to continue that relationship with your little girl. Spend more time, not less, with your daughter as she grows up. Talk to her more, if she’s willing (many of them are not); give her more affection, not less. I’m obviously talking about appropriate fatherly affection. She needs to have her confidence and self-image bolstered and your attention and unconditional love are crucial. In addition, at that stage of her life she often feels that she’s “different” and unattractive. The records clearly indicate that the father who is affectionate and treats his daughter with respect and love, produces a daughter who is substantially less promiscuous than the young girl whose father backs away from her as she “grows up.”
Dr. Ross Campbell, a brilliant psychiatrist from Chattanooga, Tennessee, says that in all of his years of research and practice he has never known an adult of either gender with a sexual dysfunction who had a father who was kind, gentle, loving, thoughtful, affectionate, considerate and some of those other “feminine” qualities. So, Dad, go ahead. Hug your daughters and don’t forget to give Mom lots of hugs, too. Take that approach and I’ll SEE YOU AT THE TOP!
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