by Zig Ziglar
Don’t misunderstand. I’m not suggesting that you go through the newspaper or the neighborhood, selecting the husband you believe would be appropriate for your daughter. But I would like to point out that you DO help your daughter select her future husband. The process starts when your little girl is happily sitting on your knee or riding your back. The truth is, the first knowledge our daughters acquire about relationships with the opposite sex comes from their fathers. What you teach your daughter about how men treat women becomes the cornerstone of her expectations. If you treat your wife with courtesy and respect, your daughter will file that in her memory bank as the way she should be treated by her future husband.
When your daughter sees you loving her mother and treating her with respect, she comes to know that men should treat their wives that way. However, if your daughter sees you abuse her mother, she learns that’s the way men treat women and so she’s not surprised – though she obviously doesn’t like it – if her husband abuses her. This is especially true if it happens in small steps during the courtship process and gradually gets worse once she is married.
When we got married, one of the things my wife’s mother told her was, “You’ve made a lifetime deal, but if he ever abuses you, you’ve got a home you can come to.” By the strangest of coincidences, that’s what we told our children. This communication to one of our daughters possibly helped her – and us – avoid a tragic mistake.
So, Dad, all this really says is that if you love your little girl, you will treat her and her mother with respect and dignity. If you do, chances are excellent your daughter will choose her husband wisely. In fact, he will probably be just like the guy old Dad would have chosen. Think about it, Dad, and I’ll see you – and your daughters – AT THE TOP!
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